“Cuddle Therapy? Nope, I have never heard of that. It sounds interesting though.” These are words I have grown very familiar with over the past few months as I have started my journey as a certified cuddle therapist. I have also grown accustomed to awkward silences, smirks, disapproving looks, giggles and lots and lots of questions.
How did I become a certified cuddle therapist? A friend of mine posted a short video on Facebook with ”I think I have found my dream job” as his comment, so I clicked on the link and watched an interesting, short video about a professional cuddler in New York City. I was very intrigued, curious, excited and thought, “I’m going to follow this new therapy and see where it goes.” I spent three years checking in on this new age idea. Mainly looking it up and watching youtube videos here and there. It was fun to watch it grow and see it as it expanded throughout larger cities here in the United States. After three years of curiosity, I couldn’t take it any longer and new I had to take the leap, follow my heart, brave the haters and become a certified cuddle therapist.
If you know anyone who has been through the grieving process, someone who has been single for a long time and or a single parent, a veteran, PTSD sufferer, autistic, an introvert, an addict, active military, LGBT, anyone with phobias, someone obese, honestly the list goes on and on. Ask any of these individuals if platonic loving touch is important. If acceptance, boundaries, a safe space without judgment, honesty, being good enough where one’s at mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually are important.
My sister in law lives in Switzerland. One time when she was visiting she made the comment to me that Americans are obsessed with sex. She pointed out to me that 90% of our commercials, even including food, clothing and body soap’s are being sold to us by sex. Is it any wonder why platonic touch seems far fetched, unrealistic or like a scam?
As a certified cuddle therapist, I help to create a safe space for appropriate, platonic, touch. Research on touch has shown that it is fundamental to human communication, bonding and health and that it takes 8-10 meaningful touches a day just to maintain emotional and physical health. Touch releases endorphins which help regulate mood, social behaviors, appetite, digestion, sleep, memory and function as a whole. Touch inspires positive thinking, reduces social anxiety and stress, boosts the immune system and lowers blood pressure.
I am out to make the world a more loving, accepting and safe place by breaking down the cultural taboo on touch. I am creating a more connected and loving world where we learn to touch, a world where we can trust. Touch, done in the appropriate ways with the appropriate intentions, can bring people together in a way that will truly change the world. I’m here to hold a safe space, to love unconditionally, to listen without judgment, to teach people how to communicate, give consent to proper touch and understand their own needs and wants for touch and how to express this appropriately.